It's National Sex Toy Day! Yes, this holiday exists, and we've put together a beginner-friendly list of 5 ways to shop for your first sex toy!
Art by Isamu Guruza
Here are some questions to consider when you shop for your first sex toy:
1. What type of stimulation do you prefer?
Note: your first sex toy doesn't have to be phallic. A lot of first-time users spring for smaller external toys, like bullet vibes, because they are non-intimidating, don't require any experience, and they get straight to the point! A multi-speed bullet will help you test the waters - the lowest setting might do you right or you'll be able to determine if you need a hefty buzz to get off. If you are able to orgasm internally, a G-spot toy may be right up your alley. If you're only able to achieve a clitoral orgasm (like 70% of women), then a bullet vibe might be your best bet. There are toys that spin, vibrate, light up (!), oscillate - truly something for everyone. But a sex toy doesn't have to possess all of the bells and whistles to get the job done, and can at times be overwhelming. Also know the difference between splash-proof (okay for the shower) and waterproof sex toys (can be submerged in water), in case you prefer to give yourself a rub in the tub!
2. Identify your budget
Once you've determined the type of toy that suits your pleasure style, knowing what you want to spend will direct you to the perfect sex toy. Note - inexpensive items are usually 'disposable,' which means they may only be intended for a few uses. This is a great option for those who want to try a multitude of different sex toys (and why shouldn't you?!). The other option is to spend a little more, which will ensure quality (most silicone toys are a bit more spendy), function and duration of use. Bigger toys like rabbit vibrators and dildos will have a bigger price tag, while sex toys like finger vibes will be the most economical.
3. Get your inner librarian on
There are a ton of resources online when it comes to the vast sea of pleasure products and sex toy safety, so research, research, research! The first topic we suggest brushing up on is sex toy materials. Silicone is at the top of the list- so if your body is sensitive, this is the holy grail of materials because it's non-porous (won't harbor bacteria) and hypoallergenic. Also make sure to know how to use, properly clean and store your sex toy prior to purchase. Important: Smaller items are NOT designed to be used internally, especially during anal play. Small sex toys cannot get lost in the vaginal canal or cervix, but they can become temporarily lodged if used incorrectly. Bottom line: don't take the risk. If you're looking for an internal vibrator, ensure the size is appropriate in length, and/or has a flared base at the bottom. One of our favorite sex toy educators in Tawney Seren - she's a one-stop-shop for really thorough and educational sex toy information.
4. Invest in some good lube
Lube can make or break your experience with a vibrator for the first time. If you're nervous or can't seem to relax, the body won't self-lubricate. Have your bases covered and keep a bottle of water-based lube handy. (Water-based is compatible with all sex toys!)
5. May the force be with you!
Orgasmic energy is the highest, most electric form of vibrational energy that exists! Orgasms are the center of creation...wrap your head around that and know that there is no shame in self-pleasure! Get down with your bad self!
Peace, love and pleasure~