“People often say that motivation doesn’t last. Well neither does bathing – that’s why we recommend it daily.”
~ Zig Ziglar
(Art by Robin Eisenberg)
If you’re reading this right now you 99% likely have a working phone and internet access - two things to help us stay connected. There are two immediate, and easy, things to appreciate.
Taking the time to recognize our blessings is a choice. Doing that regularly, and cultivating more joy in our lives is a practice.
What else can you find to appreciate right now? A charged up sex toy? Fresh running water to ensure that your sex toys (and your body) are squeaky clean?
The little things are SO IMPORTANT right now, with the weight of a pandemic smothering our existences.
With that said, what things - big or small, will fill your heart with joy and excitement? Start a JOY list with all of the things that ignite sparks of happiness within you, at any given moment. You don’t even have to have them in your possession - just things that make your heart smile.
Totino’s pizza rolls
Vintage pulp book covers
Carnival glass scored at a thrift store
New series to watch on Hulu/Netflix (Currently obsessed with Little Fires Everywhere!)
Free birthday meal coupons
Your favorite mug
Surprise care packages from a friend
A pin or patch that aligns with an obscure interest- and you are shocked and delighted that other people love it too
Your favorite pair of boots (Or new boots!) #newbootgoofin
Here are some simple ideas to jump start a joy practice.
Start a garden
Greenery can transform any space- inside or out! Plus, plants have a way of grounding us - keeping us connected to nature. Letting mother nature do her thing. So lovely! Afraid of killing a new plant? It’s all good- look into a pretty faux plant to brighten up your bedroom or living room.
Tip: Air plants are *almost* foolproof if you don’t have a green thumb! They require very little light and watering. Most small plant shops have them for under $10.
If you’re feeling extra ambitious, start an outdoor garden. Bonus - sustainable food and/or herbs when everything comes to harvest!
Having plants to care for is a great way to channel our own self-worry and focus on nurturing something to grow and flourish. <3
Make a travel bucket list
Let go of the “when” and the “how” of travel opportunities. When will we be able to enjoy travel again? Don’t worry about it. How will you make a vacation happen after the financial stress that is currently unfolding? Don’t worry about it. Our minds will ALWAYS find a way to argue against something- why it can’t or won’t happen. This is more of a daydream practice than anything. Where would you go if you were completely limitless? What attractions would you see? What excites you the most about visiting? Who are you taking with you?
Make birthday cards in advance
The next best thing to receiving compliments is giving them! Telling your friends and family how awesome they are! Cultivating appreciation creates more things to be appreciative of. Dig out some old scrap paper and stickers, and get ahead of the birthday card curve! Write a message straight from the heart- list their best strengths, your favorite memories together. Something they can put on their bathroom mirror and read every day. What if this activity brightened up someone else’s life for days to come? A simple, small act can create a ripple effect bigger than you may imagine.
Masturbation is an amazing distraction because you can’t HELP but feel good. Try to feel bummed - we dare you! (JK, do not attempt to feel bummed at any point during these exercises.) But really, this one goes without explanation. Bonus challenge: If you’ve never had a g-sot orgasm, you *can* train your body to do it. Find a body-safe g-spot toy that has the girth and texture that appeals to you the most -- no vibration! Just explore the sensations, rhythms and pace that feels good with NO Pressure to climax. You may discover new techniques that make your body feel even more stimulated than it ever has before. Legit take the time to reconnect with your body; this is something that we don’t - and DIDN’T always make the time for with self-pleasure, but it is the best way to know what you need to get off. Not only does that cultivate a deeper relationship with your own body, it skyrockets confidence when it comes to partner communication. If you don’t know what makes you feel good as hell, how can you expect your partner to know?
(Recommended toy: The Suga Daddy silicone dildo)
If all else fails, scream into a pillow. Repeat as often as necessary!
You got this, and we love you.